"people maybe UNKIND, just be KIND. They may CHEAT,just be HONEST. they may FORGET your good deeds, just do GOOD. In the end, it's between YOU and GOD, NOT YOU AND THEM. GOD BLESS"
Someone forwarded an email and at the end i found this passage very useful. It encourage me to keep on doing what i beleive is right in the eyes of God, on the other hand i was also convicted for i have done tons of sinful acts too.
sometimes in our life we met someone whom from the very start you just simply got connected. You have the same interest, came from the same place or you simply like this person. so you started hanging out with this person, soon you are opening again your very own pandora's box, for reasons like you want that person know you better, that person is a friend and you want that person to accept you for exactly who you are. And everything just seems to be fine.
then one day you found out something, that this person was not exactly the one you've thought she/he is. slowly the real self is showing off. You are caught offguarded. You can't beleive that person made a fool out of you. You start asking yourself how did it happen? What will i do now?
then slowly tears started to fall.
"it's ironic, the person whom you've trusted so much, dearly loved and gives you unmeasurable amount of happiness , would be the same person who would shatter your life even your soul."
Well life's like that, good thingis, there is God that we count on every single moment of our life. As the Bible said" it is betterto take refuge in GOD than in any MAN"....... in the end we all seek God's help....... think about it
Friday, July 22, 2005
a guide in knowing the real on
A close friend of mine forwarded this email to me. He told me that it was meant for me, but i beleive it meant for everyone who's still trying to find the real one, the one that God had created for us. Please find time reading it, who knows it might lead you to the right person.enjoy!!!!!
I have never met a man who didn't want to be loved. But i have seldom met a man who didn't fear marriage.Something about the closure seems constricting, notenabling. Marriage seems easier to understand forwhat it cuts out of our lives than for what it makespossible within our lives.When i was younger this fear immobilized me. I did notwant to make a mistake. I saw my friends get marriedfor reasons of social acceptability, or sexual fever,or just because they thought it was the logical thingto do. Then I watched, as they and their partnersbecame embittered and petty in their dealings witheach other. I looked at older couples and saw, atbest, mutual toleration of each other. I imagined alifetime of loveless nights and bickering and couldnot imagine subjecting myself or someone else to sucha fate.And yet, on rare occasions, I would see old coupleswho somehow seemed to glow in each other's presence.They seemed really in love, not just dependent uponeach other and tolerant or each other's foibles. Itwas an astounding sight, and it seemed impossible.How, I asked myself, can they have survived so manyyears of sameness, so much irritation at the other'shabits? What keeps love alive in them, when most of usseem unable to even stay together, much less love eachother?The central secret seems to be in choosing well. thereis something to the claim of fundamentalcompatibility. Good people can create a badrelationship, even thought they both dearly want therelationship to succeed. It is important to findsomeone with whom you can create a good relationshipfrom the outset. Unfortunately, it is hard to seeclearly in the early stages.Sexual hunger draws you to each other and colors theway you see yourselves together. It binds you to thethousands of little things by which relationshipseventually survive or fail. You need to find a way tosee beyond this initial overwhelming sexualfascination. Some people choose to involve themselvessexually and ride out the most heated period of sexualattraction in order to see what is on the other side.This can work, but it can also leave a trail ofwounded hearts. Others deny the sexual sidealtogether in an attempt to get to know each otherapart from their sexuality. But they cannot seeclearly, because the presence of unfulfilled sexualdesire looms so large that it keeps them from havingany normal perception of what life would be liketogether.the truly lucky people are the ones who manage tobecome long time friends before they realize they areattracted to each other. They get to know each other'slaughs, passions, sadness, and fears. They see eachother at their best. They share time together beforethey get swept into the entangling intimacy of theirsexuality.This is the ideal, but not often possible. If youfall under the spell of your sexual attractionimmediately, you need to look beyond it for other keysto compatibility. One of these is laughter. Laughtertells you how much you will enjoy each others companyover the long term.If your laughter together is good and healthy, and notat the expense of others, then you have a healthyrelationship to the world. Laughter is the child ofsurprise. If you can make each other laugh, you canalways surprise each other. And if you can alwayssurprise each other, you can always keep the worldaround you new.Beware of a relationship in which there is nolaughter. Even the most intimate relationships basedonly n seriousness have a tendency to turn sour. Overtime, sharing a common serious viewpoint on the worldtends to turn you against those who do not share thesame viewpoint, and your relationship can become basedon being critical together.After laughter, look for a partner who deals with theworld in a way you respect. When two people first gettogether, they tend to see their relation ship asexisting only in the space between the two of them.Then find each other endlessly fascinating and theoverwhelming power of the emotions they are sharingobscures the outside world. As the relationship agesand grows the outside world becomes important again.If your partner treats people or circumstances in away you can't accept, you will inevitably come togrief. Look at the way she cares for others and dealswith the daily affairs of life. If that makes you loveher more, your love will grow. If it does not, becareful. If you do not respect the way you each dealwith the world around you, eventually the two of youwill not respect each other.Look also at how your partner confronts the mysteriesof life. We live on the cusp of poetry andpracticality, and the real life of the heart residesin the poetic. If one of you is deeply affected bythe mystery of the unseen in life and relationships,while the other is drawn only to the literal and thepractical, you must take care that the distancedoesn't become an unbridgeable gap that leaves youeach feeling isolated and misunderstood.There are many other keys, but you must find them byyourself. We all have unchangeable parts of our heartsthat we will not betray and private commitments to avision of life that we will not deny. If you fall inlove with someone who cannot nourish those inviolableparts of you, or if you cannot nourish them in her,you will find yourselves growing further apart untilyou live in separate world where you share thebusiness of live, but never touch each other where theheart lives and dreams. From there it is only a smallleap to the cataloging of petty hurts and dailyfailures that leaves so many couples bitter andunsatisfied with their mates.So choose carefully and well. If you do, you willhave chosen a partner with whom you can grow, and thenthe real miracle of marriage can take place in yourhearts. I pick my words carefully when i speak of amiracle. But I think it is not too strong a word.There is a miracle in marriage. It is calledtransformation. Transformation is one of the mostcommon events of nature. The seed becomes the flower.The cocoon becomes the butterfly. Winter becomesspring and love becomes a child. We never questionthese, because we see them around us every day. To usthey are not miracles, though if we did not know themthey would be impossible to believe.Marriage is a transformation we choose to make. Ourlove is planted like a seed, and in time it begins toflower. We cannot know the flower that will blossom,but we can be sure that a bloom will come.If you have chosen carefully and wisely, the bloomwill be good. IF you have chosen poorly or for thewrong reason, the bloom will be flawed. We are quitewilling to accept the reality of negativetransformation in a marriage. It was negativetransformation that always had me terrified of thebitter marriages that I feared when I was younger. Itnever occurred to me to question the dark miracle thattransformed love into harshness and bitterness. Yet Iwas unable to accept the possibility that the firsthear of love could be transformed into somethingpositive that was actually deeper and more meaningfulthan the hear of fresh passion. All I could believe inwas the power of this passion and the fear that whenit cooled I would be left with something lesser andbitter.But there is positive transformation as well. Likenegative transformation, it results from a slowaccretion of little things. But instead of death by athousand blows, it is growth by a thousand touches oflove. Two histories intermingle. Two separate beings,two separate presence, two separate consciousnessescome together and share a view of life that passesbefore them. They remain separate, but they alsobecome one. There is an expansion of awareness, not aclosure and a constriction, as I had once feared. Thisis not to say that there is not tension and there arenot traps. Tension and traps are part of every choiceof life, from celibate to monogamous to havingmultiple lovers. Each choice contains within it thelingering doubt that the road not taken somehow morefruitful and exciting, and each becomes dulled to therichness that it alone contains.But only marriage allows life to deepen and expand andbe leavened by the knowledge that two have chosen,against all odds, to become one. Those who Levtogether without marriage can know the pleasure ofshared company, but there is a specific gravity in themarriage commitment that deepens that experience intosomething richer and more complex.So do not fear marriage, just as you should not rushinto it for the wrong reasons. It is an act of faithand it contains within it the power of transformation.If you believe in your heart that you have foundsomeone with whom you are able to grow, if you havesufficient faith that you can resist the endlessattraction of the road not taken and the partner notchosen, if you have the strength of heart to embracethe cycles and seasons that your love will experience,then you may be ready to seek the miracle thatmarriage offers. If not, then wait. The easy grace ofa marriage well made is worth your patience. When thetime comes, a thousand flowers willbloom....endlessly.What can you say?
I
I have never met a man who didn't want to be loved. But i have seldom met a man who didn't fear marriage.Something about the closure seems constricting, notenabling. Marriage seems easier to understand forwhat it cuts out of our lives than for what it makespossible within our lives.When i was younger this fear immobilized me. I did notwant to make a mistake. I saw my friends get marriedfor reasons of social acceptability, or sexual fever,or just because they thought it was the logical thingto do. Then I watched, as they and their partnersbecame embittered and petty in their dealings witheach other. I looked at older couples and saw, atbest, mutual toleration of each other. I imagined alifetime of loveless nights and bickering and couldnot imagine subjecting myself or someone else to sucha fate.And yet, on rare occasions, I would see old coupleswho somehow seemed to glow in each other's presence.They seemed really in love, not just dependent uponeach other and tolerant or each other's foibles. Itwas an astounding sight, and it seemed impossible.How, I asked myself, can they have survived so manyyears of sameness, so much irritation at the other'shabits? What keeps love alive in them, when most of usseem unable to even stay together, much less love eachother?The central secret seems to be in choosing well. thereis something to the claim of fundamentalcompatibility. Good people can create a badrelationship, even thought they both dearly want therelationship to succeed. It is important to findsomeone with whom you can create a good relationshipfrom the outset. Unfortunately, it is hard to seeclearly in the early stages.Sexual hunger draws you to each other and colors theway you see yourselves together. It binds you to thethousands of little things by which relationshipseventually survive or fail. You need to find a way tosee beyond this initial overwhelming sexualfascination. Some people choose to involve themselvessexually and ride out the most heated period of sexualattraction in order to see what is on the other side.This can work, but it can also leave a trail ofwounded hearts. Others deny the sexual sidealtogether in an attempt to get to know each otherapart from their sexuality. But they cannot seeclearly, because the presence of unfulfilled sexualdesire looms so large that it keeps them from havingany normal perception of what life would be liketogether.the truly lucky people are the ones who manage tobecome long time friends before they realize they areattracted to each other. They get to know each other'slaughs, passions, sadness, and fears. They see eachother at their best. They share time together beforethey get swept into the entangling intimacy of theirsexuality.This is the ideal, but not often possible. If youfall under the spell of your sexual attractionimmediately, you need to look beyond it for other keysto compatibility. One of these is laughter. Laughtertells you how much you will enjoy each others companyover the long term.If your laughter together is good and healthy, and notat the expense of others, then you have a healthyrelationship to the world. Laughter is the child ofsurprise. If you can make each other laugh, you canalways surprise each other. And if you can alwayssurprise each other, you can always keep the worldaround you new.Beware of a relationship in which there is nolaughter. Even the most intimate relationships basedonly n seriousness have a tendency to turn sour. Overtime, sharing a common serious viewpoint on the worldtends to turn you against those who do not share thesame viewpoint, and your relationship can become basedon being critical together.After laughter, look for a partner who deals with theworld in a way you respect. When two people first gettogether, they tend to see their relation ship asexisting only in the space between the two of them.Then find each other endlessly fascinating and theoverwhelming power of the emotions they are sharingobscures the outside world. As the relationship agesand grows the outside world becomes important again.If your partner treats people or circumstances in away you can't accept, you will inevitably come togrief. Look at the way she cares for others and dealswith the daily affairs of life. If that makes you loveher more, your love will grow. If it does not, becareful. If you do not respect the way you each dealwith the world around you, eventually the two of youwill not respect each other.Look also at how your partner confronts the mysteriesof life. We live on the cusp of poetry andpracticality, and the real life of the heart residesin the poetic. If one of you is deeply affected bythe mystery of the unseen in life and relationships,while the other is drawn only to the literal and thepractical, you must take care that the distancedoesn't become an unbridgeable gap that leaves youeach feeling isolated and misunderstood.There are many other keys, but you must find them byyourself. We all have unchangeable parts of our heartsthat we will not betray and private commitments to avision of life that we will not deny. If you fall inlove with someone who cannot nourish those inviolableparts of you, or if you cannot nourish them in her,you will find yourselves growing further apart untilyou live in separate world where you share thebusiness of live, but never touch each other where theheart lives and dreams. From there it is only a smallleap to the cataloging of petty hurts and dailyfailures that leaves so many couples bitter andunsatisfied with their mates.So choose carefully and well. If you do, you willhave chosen a partner with whom you can grow, and thenthe real miracle of marriage can take place in yourhearts. I pick my words carefully when i speak of amiracle. But I think it is not too strong a word.There is a miracle in marriage. It is calledtransformation. Transformation is one of the mostcommon events of nature. The seed becomes the flower.The cocoon becomes the butterfly. Winter becomesspring and love becomes a child. We never questionthese, because we see them around us every day. To usthey are not miracles, though if we did not know themthey would be impossible to believe.Marriage is a transformation we choose to make. Ourlove is planted like a seed, and in time it begins toflower. We cannot know the flower that will blossom,but we can be sure that a bloom will come.If you have chosen carefully and wisely, the bloomwill be good. IF you have chosen poorly or for thewrong reason, the bloom will be flawed. We are quitewilling to accept the reality of negativetransformation in a marriage. It was negativetransformation that always had me terrified of thebitter marriages that I feared when I was younger. Itnever occurred to me to question the dark miracle thattransformed love into harshness and bitterness. Yet Iwas unable to accept the possibility that the firsthear of love could be transformed into somethingpositive that was actually deeper and more meaningfulthan the hear of fresh passion. All I could believe inwas the power of this passion and the fear that whenit cooled I would be left with something lesser andbitter.But there is positive transformation as well. Likenegative transformation, it results from a slowaccretion of little things. But instead of death by athousand blows, it is growth by a thousand touches oflove. Two histories intermingle. Two separate beings,two separate presence, two separate consciousnessescome together and share a view of life that passesbefore them. They remain separate, but they alsobecome one. There is an expansion of awareness, not aclosure and a constriction, as I had once feared. Thisis not to say that there is not tension and there arenot traps. Tension and traps are part of every choiceof life, from celibate to monogamous to havingmultiple lovers. Each choice contains within it thelingering doubt that the road not taken somehow morefruitful and exciting, and each becomes dulled to therichness that it alone contains.But only marriage allows life to deepen and expand andbe leavened by the knowledge that two have chosen,against all odds, to become one. Those who Levtogether without marriage can know the pleasure ofshared company, but there is a specific gravity in themarriage commitment that deepens that experience intosomething richer and more complex.So do not fear marriage, just as you should not rushinto it for the wrong reasons. It is an act of faithand it contains within it the power of transformation.If you believe in your heart that you have foundsomeone with whom you are able to grow, if you havesufficient faith that you can resist the endlessattraction of the road not taken and the partner notchosen, if you have the strength of heart to embracethe cycles and seasons that your love will experience,then you may be ready to seek the miracle thatmarriage offers. If not, then wait. The easy grace ofa marriage well made is worth your patience. When thetime comes, a thousand flowers willbloom....endlessly.What can you say?
I
Thursday, July 07, 2005
late Againnnnn..........
I was horified when i found that our ship had docked and yet i'm still in bed, thanks to my cabin mate whowoke me up). i should have been in the office 2 hours ago and yet here i am so irresponsible. i'm a CPA and yet i could not even come on time , very unprofessional of me. What a shameful act. Eversince I've been known for being a late comer but way back before i would make excuses like traffic, commuting is hard, i'm living too far from our meeting place and so forth and so on , i had a tons of alibis just to justify my tardiness, but here in the ship i could find any reason to be late for my office is jsut a 3 minutes walk from my cabin. no more alibis for me.
i felt deeply sorry for myself , i could have changed this bad habit if only i've accepted it before. Way back i remember a friend who said" when you reach the age of 25 you won't be able to change your attitude" i don't agree with her , but how can i argue, i'm a living proof of what she said. Still i believe there's hope for me. It won't be easy but i'll give it a shot.
I wrote about it so i won't be able to forget it. for aside from being late i'm not consistent as well, no wonder i feel stagnate right now. I really felt so bad about it.
i felt deeply sorry for myself , i could have changed this bad habit if only i've accepted it before. Way back i remember a friend who said" when you reach the age of 25 you won't be able to change your attitude" i don't agree with her , but how can i argue, i'm a living proof of what she said. Still i believe there's hope for me. It won't be easy but i'll give it a shot.
I wrote about it so i won't be able to forget it. for aside from being late i'm not consistent as well, no wonder i feel stagnate right now. I really felt so bad about it.
Monday, July 04, 2005
She....pack ur stuff and seal ur values
She was my classmate in freshman, first semester to be exact. we never had the chance to be good friends way back then. she had a group of her own and i had a different circle of friends. As far as i could remember this girl really excel in algebra, among other math subjects. s he's got a slim body but got a boyish getup too. honestly i could not remember how we became good friends, all i know is , one day we just started hanging out together and then a beautiful friendship started to sprout.
During our college days , She is conservative type tipong bahay eskwela lang. Actually when me and our friends started having drinking sessions she would make "sermon" to death, there even come a time where we make laugh of all her sermons. We had our owns bumps every now and then but we were able to weather out all those individual diffirences.
After we college we started going on different paths, most of us went to review school while She headed to her hometown to work . We rarely hear from each other then. on some occasions She would go to Manila and we managed to at least see each other. things had changed a lot between all of us but then one thing remained the same ; our friendship, it was able to stand before time.
last july 3,2005 she went to Canada ,i know this decison is quiet hard , most especially if the love of your life will be left behind. i could just imagine the tears that she had tried to hold back as she waves goodbye. She, i know it's difficult, i've been through it, but one thing that keeps me going is the promise of a brighter future for me and my family. i remember when i was about to leave for florida , i busied myself with all those necessary papers and other stuff which i thought i'll be needing badly. it was too late for me to realize i forgot to pack the most vital stuff. wondering what are those?Well i forgot to pack my values and principles in life, i was so excited that finally i'll be far from home..... finally i'm free to do things i wanted to do.
she as you along on your new journey please hold on to your values, keep it inside your heart and you'll never go wrong. i'm wishing you luck friend and i'm looking forward to seeing and spending more time with you.....again
Remember these pictures????? it was fun.
i got it
i'm really happy now cuase i wasabletoupload a photoin my blog, isn't it great!!!! learning newthings is fun. as if naman ang hirap ng ginawa ko he he he he. i'm really happy
did it worked?
im trying to upload a photo intomy blog . just wanted tofind out if it did worked. dyarannnnn letme check it
Saturday, July 02, 2005
madame auring's relationship and mine
i was about to enter our crew mess when i heard a sudden burst of laughter, my curiosity push me to take a look at the tv show whom a group of men are watching, to my surprise ( or dismay ) they're watching etk, where the hosts are interviewing madame auring and archie. the guys just keep on laughing while the interview is going on,. well who wouldn't be anyway? I myself hurried to get some food so i could watch the remaining part of the interview In a split second my voice is echoing in the mess room, i myself couldn't help but laugh out loud.
could this love between madame auring and archie for real or reel, sadly i don;t have the means to find out. How could you fall for someone who's a lot older than you? If my calculations are correct madame i think is 20 or more years older than archie. if i happen to come accross them, say in a shopping mall and don't have any idea who they are, i would say that madame is archie's grandmother. people say that love see's no boundaries, that love conquers all and that age doesn't matter when it comes to loving someone. with due respect to these people, i still does not agree to their relationship. sorry guys but that's how i feel.
Eventhough we are in the 21st century still having an affair with much older person is taboo in our society, though nowadays even the hollywood are invaded with "May December Affair", just like Ashton and Demi, Sandra and this guy from the movie notebook. A few years back a person whose very dear to me had this kind of affair which i really hated, it almost shatter a family. sometimes i can't help but wonder , what if this kind of affair would come accross me, what would i do? would i have enough to courage to on? or would i be coward?...... I still have a long way to go before i could find out.
On the other side i admire the courage tha these people are showing, i could just imagine the harsh words they hear everytime they're seen in public places not to mention the meaningful glances and sarcasms. As we all know , some people simply love giving unnecessary remarks. if i'm in madame's shoes i just don't know how long could i hold on. you see i'm the type of person who get's affected easily by other people's opinions, though right now i'm trying to pretend that i simply does not care what other people would think of me, but mind you i do care deep inside.
After watching the show can't help but compare my current realtionship with what they have, well we are not exactly in the same situation but i could say fairly similar. similar in a way that my affair also deviates from society and God's norms, i;m trying to pull myself out in this situation but i find it so hard. i could no longer deny it, i'm beginning to miss the person, which i know would lead me to loving him, if i'll continue dwelling in it.
love gives us immeasurable happiness but if this love means someone else sorrow, i think it is better to give up. If the negative outweighs the positive side i could see no reason why you have to hold on. That's how i think is right ... but my feelings does not jive with what i'm thinking ( selfish me, strikes again). this is my struggle right now, i jus tdon't know if i'm going to win it over.
love is splendid indee!!!!!!!!! ( totoo ba to?)
could this love between madame auring and archie for real or reel, sadly i don;t have the means to find out. How could you fall for someone who's a lot older than you? If my calculations are correct madame i think is 20 or more years older than archie. if i happen to come accross them, say in a shopping mall and don't have any idea who they are, i would say that madame is archie's grandmother. people say that love see's no boundaries, that love conquers all and that age doesn't matter when it comes to loving someone. with due respect to these people, i still does not agree to their relationship. sorry guys but that's how i feel.
Eventhough we are in the 21st century still having an affair with much older person is taboo in our society, though nowadays even the hollywood are invaded with "May December Affair", just like Ashton and Demi, Sandra and this guy from the movie notebook. A few years back a person whose very dear to me had this kind of affair which i really hated, it almost shatter a family. sometimes i can't help but wonder , what if this kind of affair would come accross me, what would i do? would i have enough to courage to on? or would i be coward?...... I still have a long way to go before i could find out.
On the other side i admire the courage tha these people are showing, i could just imagine the harsh words they hear everytime they're seen in public places not to mention the meaningful glances and sarcasms. As we all know , some people simply love giving unnecessary remarks. if i'm in madame's shoes i just don't know how long could i hold on. you see i'm the type of person who get's affected easily by other people's opinions, though right now i'm trying to pretend that i simply does not care what other people would think of me, but mind you i do care deep inside.
After watching the show can't help but compare my current realtionship with what they have, well we are not exactly in the same situation but i could say fairly similar. similar in a way that my affair also deviates from society and God's norms, i;m trying to pull myself out in this situation but i find it so hard. i could no longer deny it, i'm beginning to miss the person, which i know would lead me to loving him, if i'll continue dwelling in it.
love gives us immeasurable happiness but if this love means someone else sorrow, i think it is better to give up. If the negative outweighs the positive side i could see no reason why you have to hold on. That's how i think is right ... but my feelings does not jive with what i'm thinking ( selfish me, strikes again). this is my struggle right now, i jus tdon't know if i'm going to win it over.
love is splendid indee!!!!!!!!! ( totoo ba to?)
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